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BDSM, KINK, FETISH?

As your kinky girlfriend, I want you to be proud and get comfortable with your unconventional fantasies. Understanding more about BDSM will help you become more confident in asking for what you want. This is part one of many about BDSM and how we can explore it together - safely. consensually, and judgement-free. Give your imagination the room key.

A collection of BDSM tools arranged on a table, including shibari rope, a riding crop, black plastic gloves, a wooden spoon, and a flat paddle

BDSM

(Power exchange, discipline, structure, or intensity – always consensual)

  • Dominance and submission (D/s dynamics)

  • Bondage (rope, cuffs, spreader bars, mummification)

  • Discipline and punishment rituals (spanking, corner time, writing lines)

  • Sadomasochism (pain and pleasure blending – spanking, caning, flogging)

  • Slave or pet training (protocols, rituals, obedience tasks)

  • Objectification (being used as furniture, a toy, or display)

  • Sensory deprivation (blindfolds, earplugs, restraint hoods)

  • Impact play (paddles, crops, floggers, hands)

  • Control play (chastity devices, orgasm control, forced stillness)

  • Breath control (light and careful – symbolic or real restraint of breath)

  • Psychological domination (mind games, anticipation, verbal control)

  • Rituals and ceremony (kneeling, collaring, greeting rituals)

  • Humiliation play (verbal, behavioural, or situational – tailored to taste)

  • Service submission (cleaning, serving, pampering the Dominant)

  • Medical play (exams, needles, temperature checks, restraint tables)

  • Interrogation or fear play (fantasy-driven, high-intensity scenarios)

  • Wax play (dripping candles, sensation contrast)

  • Sensory overload (music, lights, vibration, stimulation all at once)

  • Aftercare rituals (soothing, debriefing, grounding)

A collection of BDSM tools arranged on a table, including shibari rope, a riding crop, black plastic gloves, a wooden spoon, and a flat paddle

Fetish

(Deep, specific fixations – often focused on one object, sensation, or detail)

  • Feet (soles, toes, arches, pedicures, shoes, or stockings)

  • Hands (nails, rings, gestures, veins)

  • Legs or thighs

  • Leather or latex clothing

  • Silk, satin, velvet, or lace textures

  • Corsets, stockings, or high heels

  • Gloves or boots

  • Glasses, lipstick marks, perfume scents

  • Piercings or tattoos

  • Hair (length, colour, texture, brushing)

  • Armpits, necks, or ears

  • Smoking fetish (watching someone smoke)

  • Body worship (feet, hands, legs, or full-body reverence)

  • Object fetishism (e.g. balloons, cars, shoes, furniture)

  • Uniform fetish (military, police, nurse, maid, pilot)

  • Partialism (specific body part attraction)

  • Wetlook fetish (clothes soaked in water)

  • Food play (whipped cream, chocolate, fruit feeding)

  • Domme aesthetic fetish (boots, gloves, voice, authority)

Discipline, Dominance, Submission, and Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) is a structured set of practices focused on power exchange, control, and sometimes pain, usually guided by consent, communication, and trust. BDSM often includes rituals, dynamics, and tools to heighten both physical and psychological connection.

Kink refers to any sexual interest, activity, or fantasy that goes beyond what’s considered conventional or “vanilla”. It’s a broad umbrella term that can include everything from roleplay to light restraint. Kinks can be playful, sensual, or intense, depending on your personal preference.

Fetish is a strong sexual fixation on a specific object, material, body part, or act that becomes a key source of arousal. It’s more specific than a kink and can sometimes be central to a person’s sexual expression. Common examples include leather, feet, or latex.

A collection of BDSM tools arranged on a table, including shibari rope, a riding crop, black plastic gloves, a wooden spoon, and a flat paddle

Kink

(Playful, imaginative, or unconventional turn-ons)

  • Roleplay (e.g. boss/employee, nurse/patient, teacher/student, celebrity/fan)

  • Voyeurism or exhibitionism

  • Teasing, edging, or orgasm control

  • Sensation play (ice cubes, feathers, silk, wax drips, vibration patterns)

  • Praise or degradation (verbal arousal through compliments or taunts)

  • Power play without formal domination (gentle command or assertiveness)

  • Uniforms or costume play (maid, butler, military, schoolgirl, etc.)

  • Pet play (puppy, kitten, bunny – often playful and nurturing)

  • Age play (consensual regression or caretaking dynamics)

  • Cuckolding or hotwife dynamics

  • Dirty talk or fantasy storytelling

  • Mutual masturbation

  • Public play (semi-hidden, thrill of being caught)

  • Sensual massage with erotic buildup

  • Eye contact or breath play (mild, mindful forms)

  • Temperature play (ice vs. warm oils)

  • Denial and reward play

  • Marking (love bites, lipstick stains, scratches)

  • Mirror play (watching yourselves)

Ready for more?

Soon I will have articles on:

The Pillars of Kink, BDSM, and Fetish Play
Roles in BDSM
RACK, PRICK, CCCC etc
More Roleplay scenarios to whet the appetitte
BDSM Book recommendations
And more…