We live in a culture that treats touch as transactional. A prelude. A means to an end. But touch is its own language – one we’re forgetting how to speak.

Touch starvation is real. It can look like chronic tension, emotional numbness, hypervigilance, or a gnawing sense of disconnection even when surrounded by people. You can be in a relationship and still be touch starved. You can have sex regularly, and still crave the kind of contact that has nothing to do with climax.

Touch therapy addresses this. It’s intentional, therapeutic contact designed to ground you, soothe your nervous system, and reconnect you to your body. Sometimes it leads to deeper sexual intimacy. Sometimes it doesn’t. Both are valid. Both are valuable.

Who Benefits from Touch Therapy?

Anyone who lives in their head more than their body.

CEOs who spend 80-hour weeks strategising, but can’t remember the last time someone held their hand. Religious individuals navigating desire within the bounds of their faith. Trauma survivors relearning trust through safe, consensual touch. People in long-term relationships where physical connection has become routine, obligatory, or non-existent. Those recovering from illness or surgery who need gentle, healing contact. Neurodivergent individuals who process sensation differently and need tailored approaches. This practice is about bodies, dnd every body has needs.

What Touch Therapy Looks Like

Touch therapy can include scalp massage, hand holding, full-body massage with oil, cuddling, stroking, breathwork while in physical contact, sensory play with feathers, silk, or temperature, guided touch exploration, or simply lying together in stillness.

The body parts we focus on depend entirely on your comfort and goals: hands, arms, shoulders, back, legs, feet, scalp, face, chest, stomach. Everything is discussed beforehand, and nothing is assumed.

Some sessions involve tools – massage oils, heated stones, soft textiles, aromatherapy. Others rely solely on skin-to-skin contact. The goal is always the same: to meet your nervous system where it is, and help it regulate.

Touch Starvation: What It Really Means

Touch deprivation doesn’t just mean you’re single or celibate. It means the touch you’re receiving – or giving – lacks intention, presence, variety or consistency.

Maybe your partner touches you only during sex. Maybe you’re touched constantly by children, but never in a way that replenishes you. Maybe you’ve numbed yourself to avoid feeling anything at all.

Touch starvation looks like:

• Feeling invisible even in crowded rooms
• Craving physical closeness, but flinching when it’s offered
• Overworking, over-drinking, over-scrolling to avoid the ache
• A constant low-level anxiety you can’t name
• Forgetting what it feels like to exhale fully

Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget: you were meant to be touched. Gently and intentionally, without agenda.

My Approach

I’m a naturally touchy person. Touch is woven into everything I offer – social dates, private encounters, kink sessions. I hold hands, and I brush shoulders. I lean in to you – it’s how I connect.

But touch therapy is a distinct offering. It’s for those who crave intentional, therapeutic contact without the expectation of sexual climax. I offer it at my incall in London, and every session is tailored to your needs. Need me to come to you? I can recreate this space wherever you are.

This practice requires trust, communication, and respect. We discuss boundaries before we begin, and you remain in control of the pace, the pressure, and the areas we explore. If something in you shifts during our time together and you want to go deeper, we can. If you want to stay in the tenderness of non-sexual touch, we do that instead.

There’s no script. Just your body, my attention, and the space between us.

Why This Matters

We underestimate how much harm touch deprivation does. How it rewires our nervous systems to stay on high alert. How it makes intimacy feel dangerous, even when it’s safe.

Your touch starvation is real. Bring it to me. Let me meet it with care, curiosity, and skill. Whether you need one session to recalibrate, or ongoing support to rebuild your relationship with touch, I’m here.

If this is something you need to explore, contact me now. Your body has been waiting long enough.

– S x